So 2 hrs later I went back into the dating site and noted he was not in my contacts list. Before you reach out, remember your relationship and think about how your ex makes you feel. Two of them got in contact with me much, much later. Laughable if I wasnt so emotionally involved. If youre a man, probably not. Consider their silence the closure you need. Even though hearing him say something like this wont be easy, at least youll know where you stand. After his seemingly perfect birthday weekend he told me he was done, he still cared, but he wanted to be alone for awhilethat it may make him appreciate me more. Thank you. He just left like that? However, if you are confronting the guy in the hopes that he will feel bad/guilty/ realize how much he truly misses you and then get back together with you, no, you should not do it! He said its not what I think. At first, itll be hard to ignore the one person with whom you actually saw a life together but once you realize how he tried to play with your feelings, youll then figure out that its the only right thing to do. To please have that respect. My situation is so similar! I was dumb founded by this change of heart and his cold nature. We finally met. Thank you, I know thats right, but its still hurtful. Only delete him if he told you to, or else his sloppy texts to you could be fun. Every time I suggested to meet up he had an excuse. After that weekend, he never contacted me or we havent talked. It got to be that I was initiating all the text. I tried to contact him a few times, no response. I said it appears you are still available to her. I met a neighbor who is very cute and my age. Figured I should just take him at face value that he doesnt want anything right now and move forward- but concerned that hes just man caving on me lol. No return phone call was made. Few weeks ago I would have cared cos I really liked him (even though I kept telling myself not to). We said our good byes hugged and went our ways. We chatted for 30 mins or so. When his coworker/friend mentioned me all I got from his coworker was he says he remembers you and thats it. Amazing actually I have seen myself getting most affected whenever I was in a relationship. I think it sounds like you dodged a bullet though, so try to just move on and not think about him anymore. I felt a connection and didnt portray myself in a relationshipI just wanted to take it each day as it comes. For whatever reason, he let you expire. I never text him too. During this month of his vacation, its just once that we talked via bbm and i was the one who started the conversation. As of now, im not texting him again until he wants to text me first so i can at least tell if he still wants to talk with me. I finally cam to the rationalization of he he should have never let me have this space to myself to give me a chance to move and find someone who treats me better. But I guess that wasnt what he needed at the time. When the sudden shift of daily text stop, the no replies and stone cold silence ensued, this is when he claimed I was needy, pushy, clingy.you name it. No response. LOL funny! I have made a promise to myself from this day on to stay away from men who text. We started communicating once again. Not the end of the world but rejection hurts. Never once did I act irrational in my emails, etc. This is especially if it isnt the first time that hes come and gone from your life as he wanted. We argued got angry with each and came to a mutual agreement/resolved so therefore I thought things were good between us. We never saw eachother yet and we made plans to see eachother on a Saturday. Hes such a shit! If I stop by he gives me the cold shoulder. But this story seems to me an opportunity to share one of the deep frustrations that men have with dating (for some of us its subconscious, but its definitely there), and that is that often we feel more like the object of our partners nurture programming than actually the object of someones affection. In fact, one of the top reasons guys act interested but then disappear is that they think you're not compatible. But the truth is that I cant trust a guy who can walk in and out over any silly things. I was confident Id see him again. I said this real convenient that right around Christmas you need a week and then after New Years. A man that is in love will stop at nothing to catch and KEEP the one he has fallen in love with. We was very attentive and kept messaging me even when he was at work. I asked him plainly if he simply wasnt interested anymore or if he had someone else. 2. Monday comes around he doesnt send a good morning text. But many, many girls cant honestly claim theyve sincerely tried to vet a good guy before allowing him to stick his dick inside of her. jeez what is wrong with these guys!! He finally contacted me and explained what happened. Who does that? This guy isnt man enough to handle the situation like an adult, so youre going to have to be the adult. Why havent you reached back? Its mainly been me texting him and he does text back when I do, but it just feels like theres something going on with him. Yes, my loss. That is what cowards do. If I feel, right or wrong, that breaking up with a bump on the road is going to be stressful, dangerous, a waste of time, or all three, Ill ghost her. You dont say how old you are, but my guess is you are fairly young. What i hear on boards like these tends to repeat itself. The older they are the more apathetic they are. I wish he hadnt initiated all of the things/situations which indicate some sort of seriousness or interest (meeting a child, celebrating a birthday). He replied, Settling Down together. I dont get it! Ppl pointed things out to me that I didnt even realize I was doing. He is like the most amazing friend you could ever have. Happy to help. He told me he loved me dearly, thought about me incessantly, want me like crazy and I live under his skin. I decide to ask if we can talk later on the phone cuz I want to know where hes at and if we should just call it quits. He said he couldnt and then I gave up. I told him I didnt understand wtf happened and that it was shitty of him to not do this on ohone or in person. After a few months of dating I introduced him to my family and he came to my cousin so wedding. Also, he suffers from ocd, so I wonder what role that played in all of it. You are so right!! Im really sorry to hear that it happens to you so often! Hit it off, had a great time, immediately he asked for another date. Text Him First. I didnt have a clue whether we were in a relationship still or not or if was just having one of those bad periods in his life. if you keep making yourself available, he will simply take advantage of you and it could go on for years where you become FBs. He called me right back and his voice was very shaky. I started blaming myself for being so ridiculous and silly and stupid. You can send him a text where you: Call him out and stand up for yourself; Ask him a question pretending as if nothing happened; Start a conversation casually without addressing his behavior yet; Here are 15 texts you can send a guy when he . She shrugged and said the heart wants what it wants. Sadly thats BS, she wasnt listening to her heart, she was listening to fear. I will be keeping busy so I wont think about it although its very hard lol. Hes well aware of his behavior. I have not contacted him since, nor him me. I respectfully told him that I was going to take a step back and explore other options, wished him the very best in his future ventures, and stopped contact. I am moving on, I wont forgive him this time, but I still think and hope that he will contact me eventually and we will talk and explain things as normal, adult people should. He seemed like a whole package.. Good looking, smart and very sexy.. not to mention the sex Textes where so toe curlying good. We both laughed and said it was a good thing anyway because we had both had alcohol. So Id love to hang out with you again and I just want you to be honest with me are you going to be the guy who says some things and then vanishes?. I dont know if we are totally over or not. He walked me home and we hugged on my doorstep. I figured he probably does this all the time and I just fell for the scam. ?Was this guys name Randy by any chance?Coz i just literally read my story in yours!!!! SO in conclusion we have someone who likes the shallow dating thing so that he doesnt feel alone, but if the attraction isnt genuine hell tell her hes not interested in sex quite yet. Men need their ego to always be fed. He had said it was difficult decision, but after a lot of thought it was over between us. Today I feel again like the day he asked for a break, all the hurt, anger, confusion, and tears have returned. Were talking for a really long time through text and then we met up and had a really good time I thought. Needlesa to say, I stayed the night. This is why people shouldnt date, as in, go on a ceaseless string of random dates with one dude after another. By the end of the day Im furious and crying like a little baby. The women who are actually in exclusive relationships are usually being mistreated by the man in some way anyway. at the end, I am away from heartache. I want this relation but I know that its selfish to keep it with so many problems Im dealing with right now(Hes going through so much) Any thoughts please. Then I found out that he removed me from his friends list and also blocked me in his other account. That quickly his interest! I met a guy on my holiday abroad and although it was supposed to be just a little fun we fell in love. 3. Otherwise you are only hunting, once the hunt is over and youve eaten and satsified- perhaps you are justifying your loss of apetite by the test? Im assuming you are dead right now and your spirit is reading all my textsmay lord have mercy on your selfish rotting womanizing soul If smn looses interest why asks to do smth on weekend. Im a big believer in second chances (Im willing to take the risk to find out what his character is), but third chances no way. So again, hell either dodge responsibility and get defensive, minimizing his behavior OR hell take responsibility and reassure you that his vanishing act wont happen again, giving you a reason to move forward with another date. My communication outside of texting is great with them. For example: If you had five high-quality, amazing men all texting you, all wanting to take you out, and then one vanished and reappeared, you may barely even notice his presence again. which was why he suddenly felt the need to reach out..In fact he sought me out twice that day which broke down all my screwed up defensesand I gave in and texted him on Sunday casually ofcourse but still *Bangingmyheadagainstthewall* Why? We hit it off and I live on Maui another island than him. Her goal is to bridge the gap with modern dating and help inspire people to learn to love dating. now i am laughing at how all of us women react the same way and just make things worse. 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