Once her (much older) husband started doing things to increase his T-levels, he once again became more active, horny, etc. Don't be shy with your partner. Great comment, I am just sorry that your wife didnt wake up and realize how lucky she was to have someone who was so committed to their marriage and family. Your husband may be experiencing depression and you may want to invite him to take a depression test on-line. I brought it up in marriage counseling and the counselor said if he was bored it was because he was boring. I usually dont think of him at all. Suggest ways to wind down together after a long day instead of just vegging out in front of the TV. No matter what the problem is, communication is critical. This isnt personal its a symptom of their mental illness. I cant go on like this forever. While I will own my mistakes, own what I need to work on in MY life and own how I can communicate better, etc to improve my marriage, I am sick to death of the prevalent societal idea that people cheat because something is lacking at home. What to do when my husband never wants to do anything with me during this period? It was a little thing, but it allowed you to keep up to date with the important (and, yes, sometimes the not so important) goings on in each other's lives. But if you strongly believe: My husband doesn t like spending time with my family and me, it might not be personal. I guess if Ive found any silver lining in my situation it has been establishing a value of self worth that cannot be skewed by anyone and as was said before no more blind faith. A selfish husband will not care about your feelings. On the other hand, Linda read some book ( I think by Suzanne Somers) that claimed much of the fuddy-duddyness in men stems from a lack of testosterone. If you want to close the gap, try making a regular date night where you can focus on each other without distractions. I never did that very much, but now I try not to AT ALL. Weve been married 42 years. I have only ever really seen him upset/sad once in 13 years. Doug, Linda, anyone elseone topic I would love to see discussed: how do you handle ti when the topic of affairs comes up in discussion with friends, etc. 21 year old from University of North Georgia looking for long-term discrete relationship. Now shes pregnant (its mine) and I dont really have a choice. Feminize me, fuck me, and make me yours. He Never Asks Your Opinion. On my birthday . I realized that I was not bored because I was always giving to our marriage and familyshe was the taker which meant she was always waiting for something to be given to her or to happen for her. the list goes on and on and on. Very good post Doug. My husband did, I did, my affair partner did, my husbands affair partner did, every body who ever cheated did, lol. As the girls got older, I was looking forward to the two of us having time together again. Ad by Techy Twist Ever heard of the Mandela effect? This short guide tells you what you need to know to survive the affair, heal yourself and emerge on the other side a stronger person. In a vacation environment totally devoid of any stress, I couldn't stand to be in my husband's company. And he will bethe old guy at the club. Lol, and ewwwww. This doesn't stop my husband going back to the UK for shooting trips, even though he knows that I am not at all pleased. Its so frustrating and can make you feel really lonely. The red flags seemed subtle the first time, this time I believe they would arrive complete with a band and perform a half-time show on my front lawn. I hope its not too late. Exercise Grace, I totally agree. Another option is speaking to him about events that he would prefer you attend with a friend. Then when I think about how unappreciative and selfish her betrayal was in the first place I feel like fool for stretching myself so thin when I feel like she should be kissing MY ass. They didnt really do anything or go anywhere special together and to the casual observer, certainly not anything or anywhere exciting. "Love and affection should be evident not only to you, but . BUT I am so happy that this is FINALLY coming to closure for you. But after she left, he was angry. Exercise, play sports, go to the gym and consider beginning each day with a walk together. It was all about ME and what I should or shouldnt do, NOT about him and the nasty tramp he was running around with, protecting, putting on a pedestal, The stupid tart would call him every time he saw her and say are you ok, dont let your wife get to you, this is how you talk to her. If he's super passive aggressive or he doesn't like confrontation, this could be his way of telling you that he doesn't want a serious relationship with you. The money he gets will be spent and gone. Blah blah blah. We've been married for almost 30 years and have 2 children, aged 16 and 18. ULK I hate it all for everyone but I am trying to be the constant for him. I value your opinion so I really appreciate your comments. While it IS true that there is not a marriage on this planet that could not benefit from better communication, increased date nights and focus on each other as a couple, etc, feel free to add your wants and needs.Cheating is WRONG. But its good to know that Im not alone in feeling this way. Additionally, try not to nitpick everything that he does wrong. You are correct that i t does not excuse your cheating, but it does point out where your personal vulnerability was. You endured much more than most would be able to. I dont think we should ever let ourselves fall into the boredom trap either, but I am so tired (as the betrayed spouse) of feeling like I need to become a one woman circus to keep the interest going. Lol. I think Ive done my share. Ohh and the funny thing is, she wasnt on anything for depression. I know my h has always been a strong capable man, full of honor, self respect and pride, it definately would not have been an easy road seeing someone else staring at you in the mirror. Yup, I no longer want all the responsibility of doing it all, anymore. Then, really invite your husband to share his experience of what's been happening in the marriage. I know exactly how you feel. Giz, you one of the most remarkable people I have met on this journey. If she only knew. Well, wow. First, try to be more positive when youre around him. I do everything outside the home with friends, nothing with him. My major flaw is that Im fat. My dr had wanted me to start being on medication for depression but had also said things would be better if your h would change his attitude and start helping you, because this is why you are so depressed. All for some worthless, bunny boiling slut. This can be difficult to navigate, but dont worry were here to help! And he had better think about how to mentally gird himself and decide how to react calmly to it. This comment does not necessarily mean your post violates any rules. That is a rough thing to admit, but doing so frees me of any thought that any cheater isnt responsible for his or her actions. What to do when my husband never wants to do anything with me? It's been 10 years of this. I wasnt neglecting him or abusing him in any way. This is bonding time. The judge stated that nobody wins in a divorce. Joke advice or advice that is conspiratorial or just plain terrible will be removed, and users my be subject to a ban. Everyone makes mistakes, and your husband is no exception. I get upset just thinking about it. f. I can and will choose PEACE for my life. I dont know what to do any,more. I really did want out but didnt see a way. My ex made out very well during the pre-trial. Veiled or overt threats, against you or them. You can also look for ways to connect during the day, like taking a walk together or sharing a coffee break. My spouse is: old, fat, boring, lazy, doesnt like sex, doesnt love me, harsh, critical, unappreciative, ugly, jealous, nagging, a shrew, etc. I have often thought about why I dragged my feet too. 261K views, 8.6K likes, 1.4K loves, 409 comments, 347 shares, Facebook Watch Videos from ginaalopeez: Me r0bar0n mi celular!! You might be unwittingly putting distance between yourself and your partner by being too busy. Time will tell. We were trying to understand how they could have gotten to this place and hypothesized what could possibly be going on in their relationships, and why. I was thinking, I wonder how my h would like to see me in those clothes, all vintage like. I busted my ass for 2 years afterward trying to keep her stimulated with things to do, trips, vacations, outingswhatever. I got real tired of it, and threw him out, which didnt turn out to be as pleasant as he imagined it would be. Friday may 31st will be divorce day. No referencing hateful subreddits and/or their rhetoric. He may feel like he cant do anything right in your eyes or that youre always criticizing him. He goes to bed whenever he wants and gets up whenever he wants. I realized that I was not bored because I was always giving to our marriage and familyshe was the taker which meant she was always waiting for something to be given to her or to happen for her. Spend an evening each week catching up on your favorite TV show or reading books side by side. You have your sons hearts, love, support, and respect. The body can pass the infection. 6. Its also extremely exhausting and expensive. She was not invested like I was. And that goes right to the heart of why so very few people actually DO leave. Something along the lines of, well if he was happy he wouldnt be with me. Your email address will not be published. With empty nesthood approaching fast they were concerned that the rest of their lives were going to be lifeless and dull. I too am a fun person, and we dont do shi* b/c other half is content doing nothing. My other half knows this, but still, does not take any of the responsibility on. They are selfishly seeking attention, with NO intention of giving up their real relationship. These are the games she played, along with you promised me thus, you promised me that, boo hoo. I feel like I need to turn into a stepford wife. Just wanted to let you know I understand what youre going through, youre not alone! Sometimes guys just don't know how to say things. Any infractions of this rule will result in a ban. EG, I was indeed joking as she playing the role of advisor, not basher. "Try not to accuse or assume." 3. ALL advice given must be good, ethical advice. It's an example of his own insecurity and need to control you. When you and your spouse are talking, put down your cell phone, set aside distractions, and focus on each other. If anyone condones cheating, or blames one of the affair partners or a spouse, you just have to wonder WHY. It may be kind of obscure sometimes but its there. No exceptions. My 10 year old son's personality is that he does not want to leave the house to do go stuff. He has become a public figure, and the repercussions are potentially enormous. His demeanour physically / the way he moves is gentle and measured. Of course that was a trigger for me, and I told him that it was nice that he was focusing on how the whole thing made HIM feel, and totally ignored how gut wrenching it was for ME as she sat there describing a college boyfriend who cheated on her, and went on at length about how I have no idea the pain, the agony, the etc etcof being cheated on. Eg, unfortunately with my h cousin it, she thought it was and when it looked like she could use it she threw herself at him like a bitch on heat. He is always focused on himself. For example, suppose hes always putting his buddies before you or bailing on plans because hed rather do something else. We are all now to the point where our kids have either graduated from college, in college or will be entering college next fall. I had a saying Lose the battle, win the war. Meaning the final outcome is in your favor cause you are done with them ! Please make sure you read our rules here. Its essential to show interest in the things your spouse enjoys, even if you dont share the same enthusiasm. He has friends, hobbies, and other commitments that compete for his time. I know now we got pregnant way too early after the affair becuse Im obviously still struggling in the aftermath. This is separate from and at times in spite of, others around me. I say. My first husband seemedin control, too. But you already know that, lol. Once he achieves them, youll have plenty of quality time together. Try not to take it personally if he seems distant. I have begun traveling without him because he wont go. In the midst of the fog, they can do no wrong, probably a fair way out of the fog too, before things start showing themselves for what it really was. I was busting my ass and kissing hers at the same timeeven after the magnitude of her betrayal. I tried to strike a balance and move the conversation in a different direction. It drives me totally nuts. Its not shallow to want to be with someone who desires you. We saw therapists through the years but nothing changed. Yeah I know..not productive, LOL. Ignore builds a wall between you and your spouse. he will drive an hour to see her for 20 min and goes out fo coffee and to movies, etc. What do I do? Exercise grace, this is exactly the kind of thing I was trying to get through to Eyes Opened about. You never know, once your husband sees what a great time you are having. Take care. Sometimes, your spouse needs some space and thats perfectly normal. If you're spending more time with work, kids, or hobbies, he may feel left out. If you are struggling to find a boyfriend OR can't get quality men to commit to you then read this post to find out why. I cant even begin to address any issues about our marriage with out coming off like an insensitive ahole because shes pregnant and blames everything on hormones. Everywhere you look there are things telling us how to be hotter in the bedroom, cook healthier more exciting menus, pick up thrilling new hobbies. They were bored. Thats like saying its ok for me to walk into a bank and steal money if the security guard isnt looking. My only texting buddy ghosted me so I came here. Rewind 10 years ago and I was a single 25-year-old freshly off finishing grad school at NYU who was moving to start a new chapter and a new job in Austin. My h was telling me on the weekend how his mistress told him, if I didnt want my children, how she would be so happy to raise them with him. They are NOT as unhappy as they profess themselves to be. It just proves to me that I am not worth his commitment if it does. Thank you, EG! Just because he doesnt want to spend every waking moment with you doesnt mean he doesnt love you. You words ring true, I have read it so many times in the hundreds of relationship books, when a person invests in a relationship the relationship is important to them and will do everything to preserve it. I am 62 and he is 70, maybe its his age. See he would watch me falling and he would hold his hand out to her to help her up. And if your husband has told you outright that hes no longer attracted to you, its time for a serious conversation. It had an article about trauma recovery that said basically you are healed when you can review the trauma in a non emotional way. I however am back to working full time at our business since he practically decimated it with his affair partner working there so I dont have much time or inclination to be the perfect homemaker he used to be married to. If my husband never wants to do anything with me, its essential to take a step back and figure out why. It can often take the form of giving you the silent treatment . Oh wait, here I am doing JUST THAT, LOL LOL. In a marriage, spouses continually need each other, whether it's for emotional support during a hard time or to attend a boring work event so one doesn't have to suffer alone. 2 Answers - ( Newest, 16 November 2009) A female age 30-35, anonymous writes: i am 19years old and my husband is 20 and this feb 14th 2010 we will be married for 2 years. She will never understand the pain she caused me and our children. Last night my husband and sister got into a somewhat heated discussion when she brought up a friend from our hometown that got caught cheating. Its important to have hobbies and interests outside of your relationship. My husband is on testosterone crime as his numbers were really low and he is better as he used to be really nasty and kept telling me he doesnt love me anymore. He was slightly above a dead-beat. FCOL, it makes TOTAL sense. Now I have more expectations. But threats of leaving, cutting off "privileges," or even threats . Now, us men stood there and talked about the normal stuffsports, work, kids and yes, one of the other guys did do just a little wife-bashing. What should I do if my husband never wants to do anything with me? 3. Ayyy ahora si ya les cuento todito lo que pas De verdad que miedo Im exhausted and burned out. My husband is a type 2 diabetic (which is totally uncontrolled) and has hypertension, elevated cholesterol, as well as several other health issues. Blessings friend! I commented on his IG. If your spouse is dealing with depression or anxiety, they may not want to do anything, let alone spend time with you and your family. What I thought would come back to me at some point (like a true relational marriage), is no longer my dream. Trash is its own reward. You can also subscribe without commenting. It doesn't appear in any feeds, and anyone with a direct link to it will see a message like this one. First, talk to him about how youre feeling and see if theres anything he can do to change the situation. Nikada / iStock. And that choice requires both daily practice and unwavering commitment. Even if you're not trying to ignore him, busyness can create an emotional barrier. And while that might sound easy enough, many of the common phrases we say in our daily lives can get in the way of achieving the goal of keeping an open dialogue between spouses. If youve gained a lot of weight, let your hair go gray, or stopped caring about your appearance, its possible your husband no longer finds you attractive. I only wish I had done it MUCH SOONER. Sound familiar? Thankfully, my h told her, there is no way I will take the children away from their mother. he doesnt want things to improve. It can be a major weakness to a marriage. he says he knows I am fighting for us but he also knows me and I am just getting ready for when we divorce. If you . Devoted my life to him and my children..worked at a job I hated for the money and where am I know? Instead of demanding his time, try giving him some space to do what he enjoys. I kind of envy the people who say.we were on the verge of divorce before the affair and I can kind of see why it happened. What this means for me is If he wants to pick an argument or indulge in another round of self pity, I dont have to join in. My husband never wants to hang out and just spend time with me but then gets overly butthurt when we go more than a couple days without having sex. That made it interesting to them I suppose. I just didnt want to believe what was actually happening and also, I didnt have the guts! He confesses that his testimony and knowledge of the gospel was minimal before a harrowing climb on Denali, the highest peak in North America, forced him to put his new faith to the test. she willingly goes to counseling but I dont think think she puts much effort towards repairing our marriage. That said, anyone who knows my husband and I would say that HE is the boring one; ie, wants to stay home, etc. It's a good way to keep a relationship alive. I don't know the answer but I'll be looking for that pdf to read as well!! Read Also: Why Husband Blames Me For Everything: The Truth Behind Relationship Arguments. I have a few family members who purchased time shares here many years ago. Lets face it, we arent children anymore, either have an adult relationship or dont, if you do not want to, then let the other person go so he/she can. Go out and start doing things you want to do. Question: My husband will not let me out of the house without him. He stops asking about your life. When your partner has your back, they'll be able to say those three important words sincerely and out loud in front of other people. The cheating spouse still seems to be calling the shots. Its his fault for not paying enough attention. All through his fog. . Egos dont care what the external package looks like. Plan a weekly date night where you go out to dinner or see a movie, Go on weekend trips together even if its just for a few hours, Make time for a weekly game night or hobby night, Exercise together this can be anything from going for a walk to playing tennis. These images sum it up perfectly. Unique Proposal Ideas To Make Your Partner Say Yes, 21 Signs the Universe Wants You to Be With Someone, What to Do When a Guy Ghosts You: Obvious Red Flag Explained. This can lead to him wanting to distance himself from you, which isnt good for your relationship. John Pre-affair I was as guilty as anyone. If you feel like. Of course, theres more to a relationship than physical attractionbut it is important. Maybe you have a friend or acquaintance who would love to get up and go. If friends tend to be the parents of our kids teammates, school friends, etc. Now I am thinking of calling it quitsnever thought I would feel this way..worked so hard to keep my marriage together.but Ive been at this now for 4 years and still not sure if one day he is going to come home and say he is leaving. You went into survival mode and I think a lot of cheaters do. Like go to the grocery store, go to the pool, go to sport practice, go anywhere! If youre the type of person who gets insecure and jealous when your partner talks to anyone else or even just spends time away from you, it might be time to take a step back. I hate men like that. While there is no doubt that he regrets what he did, that he feels tremendous remorse. i just have to keep telling myself to quit obsessing over her happiness and to just do my own thing and invite her along for the ride. everything else is just circumstantial, and an excuse. I give up on getting a true apology. Told me why now when he doesnt care. We even half-joked that the guys must be suffering from a lack of testosterone while both of the women are now ripe for affairs. People value what they invest in as opposed to what they are not invested in.. The term refers to being "dependent" on another person and putting their needs before your own by engaging in people-pleasing behavior and caregiving. If this is a recent development, you may be wondering what went wrong and how to fix it. Even if youre not trying to ignore him, busyness can create an emotional barrier. The affair partner wants to place the blame on the betrayed spouse. My own personal sob story 20 years ago was that my husband was an alcoholic, and that he was physically abusive to me. Read More All related (100+) Sort Recommended JMMendez I'd go with an ultimatum: remind him you're not his servant, nor a . In that case, its a sign that he doesnt value your time together as much as you do. Having him believe something that wasnt true. Sponsored by BeenVerified Don't put others before your husband. Cheated twice? Mumsnet carries some affiliate marketing links, so if you buy something through our posts, we may get a small share of the sale (more details here). Please contact the moderators of this subreddit if you have any questions or concerns. Well, my court date for Friday was cancelled because the ex couldnt make it. It does not matter to whom you are referring.). Dear sister, yes, these feelings haunt me daily. Hopefully, those of you who are further along and are in the marriage rebuilding and strengthening phase can find this helpful. 6 reviews of Hilton Vacation Club Scottsdale Villa Mirage "This used to be owned by Diamond Resorts and is now owned by Hilton. I deserved better. I was tiresome and costing me a fortune! If youre constantly asking your husband to spend time with you, he may feel like youre not putting in enough effort to make it happen. I feel like Im slowly being snuffed out. Oh, one more thing. So, what gives, lol? I don't think . Sorry, this post was deleted by the person who originally posted it. If you suspect this is the case, youll need to have a serious conversation about whats going on and how its affecting your relationship. I can see how my h would prefer to forget. Linda claims it was the other two women that were doing all of the complaining (uh, huh) and the core complaints were that their husbands never wanted to do anything and were basically boring stick-in-the-muds. So you are either In or Out on this one. " If dat new guy don't stop follin wit ma girl, ahm gon put a gree gree on him ." True. I have complete clarity on this issue in my mind. If he does something differently, it does not mean that it's wrong. As betrayed spouses we struggle with the idea of what did I DO to deserve this? Well, the truth is we did NOTHING. Problems arise when you leave the house early, barely speaking to or connecting with your wife before you dash out the door. Eg, its funny you commented about being a step ford wife, lol. At least you are trying. During a dinner with Lala and the "You're Gonna Love Me" podcast host, 36, Raquel admitted that she liked Tom, 40, but . Prayers for peace for you. EG, who is perfect, ohhh thats right the ow thats who. My husband never wants to go anywhere . Say what you will, but there's often quite a bit of truth to jokes. This way, your husband knows that youre serious about wanting to spend time with him, and he wont feel like hes being nagged. Possibility # 2: Your husband won't talk because he doesn't like conflict (the avoiding pain motive) Your husband may be upset at you for something, but not want to say anything about it for fear that it will cause conflict. In 2006, he experienced his very first bout of acute pancreatitis, which was determined to have been caused by extremely elevated triglycerides. Ok fine. The glue as our therapist says. Relationships are challenging, and that includes marriages. Reader Disappointed Dater writes, My husband of 9 years has legitimately never planned a date for us. Liz Pardue-Schultz and her husband Greg Schultz Silver Charm Photography Many people in relationships often feel obligated to accompany their partners to events they don't want to go to,. Examples include, but is not limited to: red/blue/black/purplepill, PUA, FDS, MGTOW, etc. They work, because one of my girlfriend's husband was having trouble getting hard and he ordered one.. She is so proud of . You absolutely tell it like it is. b. I let the selfish decisions of two very self absorbed people turn me into someone I am NOT. The full 3 months have gone by and your dog has settled in. If theres one thing that does not exist in a long-term marriage its that feeling of newness. I feel like I have to force him. If I would have filed at the beginning I would be years ahead in of where I am now in terms of my recovery. A Crappy Vacation Told Me My Marriage Was Really Over. Whether she values what she has or not I know her friends and coworkers are jealous when they stair at me like a piece of meat-haha. Do you often think, my husband doesn t like spending time with my family and me? 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